“I’m finding the level of hatred he has towards me traumatising…”

Dear Rosie,

Hi I’m currently half way through your book and I see your husband also seemed to feel such hatred for you after the separation, even though you didn’t do anything wrong.

I’m currently the same situation (he ended it, but no infidelity as far as I’m aware). I’m finding the level of hatred he has towards me and the stonewalling more traumatising than anything else. It’s really messing with my head.

Did your ex come out of it in the end? Was it just his way of processing the separation? I keep apologising, but not sure what I’m apologising for.